Your answer to this poll will help me considerably. Thanks.

QUESTION: I’ve been married for 19 years.  My husband and I have sex usually 5 times a week. He is very persistent about it happening more often.  If I say no he gives me a HUGE guilt trip and will not talk to me for 2 days. I am so angry that he does this to me and desperate for help. He has been diagnosed with an obsessive personality and we have been to counseling many times.  Nothing I say or do is working. How do we find a balance? And am I overreacting?

ANSWER: You are not happy that your husband wants sex constantly, and he doesn’t have respect
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QUESTION: Where does it say in scripture that I am required to stay in a marriage WITHOUT sex. If my spouse is not physically disabled, not grossly obese, not cheating on me but just NOT interested in having sex and REFUSES to go to counselling unless I agree to breast augmentation. What ARE my choices?? Where does God command a wife or a husband for that matter to stay in an actual sexless marriage. Not sex one time a month or 4 times a year, which is sexless nonetheless, but NEVER. Please give me a straight honest answer…………..Thank you.

ANSWER: Rather than go through all the passages in the Bible that speak to marriage, I believe we can answer your question by looking at just one. It’s found
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QUESTION: My husband shares our sex life with his sister, who then shares it with other family members.  His sister has made crass jokes about our sex life.  This disturbs me immensely.  I don’t feel as if he should be sharing our sex life with anyone but me.  Am I wrong?

ANSWER: Lovemaking between a husband and wife
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QUESTION: I have heard that oral and anal sex is prohibited for a Christian couple.  My husband has a lover and I think she gives him both these types of sex, which I refuse to give him.  He was Christian, but has left God.  I still serve God.  Please tell me if it wrong and can I get scripture to back it up?  Thanks.

ANSWER: Because your husband is…well, YOUR husband…then any sexual activity he has with anyone else is wrong. It matters little what sexual activity he participates in with his lover because all of it is adultery. However, I get the impression that you are searching for scripture that says that those specific acts – oral, anal – are wrong.

You may not like my answers.
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USA Today reports that Pat says divorce is okay if one’s spouse has Alzheimer’s. When asked about vows such as “until death do us part” he opined that Alzheimer’s is “a kind of death.” He went on to say that the departing spouse should arrange proper care for the disease victim, but that to move on to another marriage is acceptable.

Without doubt, this and many other questions about whether or when to divorce an diminished spouse come wrapped in a plethora of emotions. Some see the caretaker spouse as chained,
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QUESTION: You published an article entitled When Should a Married Couple Separate. In it you stated, “Some spouses (men and women) suffer from repeated emotional beatings or live in a marriage that causes them serious spiritual vulnerability. They need to flee for protection just as strongly as those experiencing physical abuse.” Could you give me some specifics. I feel strongly I’m suffering under this…Please help me.

ANSWER: Hmm. Well, I guess I should be used to making people mad by sharing my views, so here goes…
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It’s about time someone sued their Mom because she didn’t put cash in a birthday card…WHAT?!

You can read the news article here to get all the gory details. The gist is that two privileged children in their 20′s sued their Mom for bad parenting for reasons such as:

• she called her daughter at midnight during homecoming to tell her to come home
• she told her son when he was seven that if he didn’t buckle his seat belt she would call the police
• she gave her son a birthday card that, although nice, wasn’t as he wanted it to be – especially because it did not contain cash or check

For all her “bad mothering” they wanted
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Robert Smith commented on Why Can You Hear What I Feel? He writes…

I understand your point — that we should validate another person’s feelings and show empathy — but there are some people who have a very distorted, self-centered view of the world. Their feelings really are invalid, at times.

For example, suppose a person is a hypochondriac. They say they feel sick, but they are not.  Their feelings do not change the fact that they are healthy.  Conversely, suppose a person feels healthy, but a deadly cancer is starting to grow inside his/her body. They feel fine, but that does not change the fact that they are sick.

We can extend this analogy to the Christian faith. A non-believer may feel that they are doing just fine with “the man upstairs.” In reality, they are very sick, and need healing in the form of Jesus Christ. A believer may feel guilt for sins for which they are forgiven, but it is not a valid feeling because Jesus paid the price.

My Comments on Robert’s Comments:

First, thank you Robert for taking time
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A few years ago I was in a contentious meeting with a group of church leaders., though it had not started that way. At one point, I metaphorically threw up my hands and queried, “Can you at least understand why I feel as I do about this?” One brother intoned, “No, because your emotions do not fit the facts.”

Hmm…emotions…facts…emotions should fit the facts…hmm. No one in the room doubted the accuracy of that declaration. No one that is except for
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