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700 Brave Souls Who Faced Their Grief

I once described a hero as one who can hit a ball a long way, as in a Major League baseball player. As we get older, often our heroes change. I know mine has. I now have about 700 of them. Since 2009, when we hosted our first grief retreat, some 700 brave souls have...

Is It Too Late To Save My Marriage

Communication, Marriage Trouble, Uncategorized

QUESTION: My husband didn't blink an eye when I told him to move into the spare room. But he didn't move before vividly describing more things about me that anger him. I wish he would have brought this to my attention years ago (literally). I don't understand why he...

He Doesn’t Want a Heart to Heart Conversation

Communication, How To's, Marriage, Marriage Trouble, Relationship, Uncategorized

QUESTION: I'm confused. My husband and I are separated. He keeps telling me that he wants to have normal conversations. He talks about nothing. He doesn't want a heart to heart conversation so we can solve our problems. I just want to know am I wasting my time trying...

The Truth About Limerence Affairs

Marriage Trouble, Relationship, Sex, Uncategorized

In my work with marriages in crisis since 1994, 67% of those marriages have been affected by infidelity. Some on the part of the husband, some the wife, some both. If the affair was short-lived - primarily about sex - the crisis is real but not as difficult to repair...

Is There Hope For Me To Stop Divorce?

God, Marriage Trouble, Relationship

QUESTION: I can't do this anymore. I don't know how to fight for someone who doesn't want me or our marriage. This just isn't any way to live. I can't remember the last time I really laughed, I cry constantly, I'm sick of being sad. I'm sick of pretending to be happy...

Husband Is In Love With Another Woman

Marriage Trouble, Uncategorized

QUESTION: My husband is in love with another woman. I believe that what he is feeling for the other woman is what you call limerence. Since he has moved out, he has asked me to bring him medicine when sick, and he got me a shirt the day he had me served with divorce...

How Can I Mean Nothing to Him?

Marriage Trouble, Relationship, Uncategorized

QUESTION: How do I let him know he's my everything when I now know I'm his nothing? After years together how can I mean nothing to him? ANSWER: I am so sorry for your pain. Before I answer your question, I strongly recommend you read the articles on...