Soon I’ll share some fascinating things I’ve uncovered in research about marital and sexual satisfaction. It’s not quite ready to go yet — and I may ask you to participate in a survey if you wish! — but for now let me mention one clear point that has come through in my research so far.

Many men have diminished sexual attraction to their wives because their wives have gained weight.

No, I’m not trying to be sexist nor do I buy into that idiocy that only thin people are happy, have worth, etc. I’m simply telling you what research bears out. Men tend to be visual creatures and when their spouses become obese they find their sexual attraction diminished somewhat. By the way, for many women this also holds true. Additionally, my research indicates that many women find their husbands less sexually desirable because of hygiene — hair, smells, fingernails, sloppy clothes, etc.

To help me focus on the most important things, write me at info@joebeam.comto tell me your thoughts about what diminishes sexual attraction for a spouse.

If weight or any other matter is negatively affecting your marriage, we can help. Get more information on my marriage seminar/workshop for troubled marriages.