I had been single for 9 years after my first wife left me for another man. I had been in a couple of sexual situations with a couple of women that I dated only 2-5 times each. Outside of that, I had not had a relationship with a female that could even loosely be described as being a dating or intimate one. I had my life busy with raising my two daughters and running a Wal-Mart store. I was physically attracted to any number of women, but when I met my wife, she was kind to me, but had no sexual motive. She became my friend, going to football games with me, and there were no strings or sex attachments. As we grew together, we found we had a lot in common, including spiritual struggles. After knowing each other for a couple of years and dating for a few more, I took the risk of asking her to marry me. She is still kind, a Jesus seeker, kind, and, I must say physically beautiful. Married 17 years ago and together have faced Satan’s temptations, sometimes successfully; the world’s threats, often with fear before success; but the toughest was being two divorced-and-remarried Christians in church congregations that said our history before we married made us unsuitable as Christians. Now, what I love the most is my wife’s refusal to quit Jesus when she is called a whore or treated like one by ‘Christians.’ Not that I have issues, Joe………..
I feel your pain Clay
on January 21, 2011 at 2:44 pm
We are in a similar marriage, but only one of us was divorced before. About twice a year we get emails from well meaning church of Christers who quote Jesus’ words that marrying a divorced woman causes her to commit adultery. They tell us to divorce and return to the previous spouse.
Cloudy
on January 25, 2011 at 10:15 am
If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. ~ Deuteronomy 24:1-4
I had been single for 9 years after my first wife left me for another man. I had been in a couple of sexual situations with a couple of women that I dated only 2-5 times each. Outside of that, I had not had a relationship with a female that could even loosely be described as being a dating or intimate one. I had my life busy with raising my two daughters and running a Wal-Mart store. I was physically attracted to any number of women, but when I met my wife, she was kind to me, but had no sexual motive. She became my friend, going to football games with me, and there were no strings or sex attachments. As we grew together, we found we had a lot in common, including spiritual struggles. After knowing each other for a couple of years and dating for a few more, I took the risk of asking her to marry me. She is still kind, a Jesus seeker, kind, and, I must say physically beautiful. Married 17 years ago and together have faced Satan’s temptations, sometimes successfully; the world’s threats, often with fear before success; but the toughest was being two divorced-and-remarried Christians in church congregations that said our history before we married made us unsuitable as Christians. Now, what I love the most is my wife’s refusal to quit Jesus when she is called a whore or treated like one by ‘Christians.’ Not that I have issues, Joe………..
We are in a similar marriage, but only one of us was divorced before. About twice a year we get emails from well meaning church of Christers who quote Jesus’ words that marrying a divorced woman causes her to commit adultery. They tell us to divorce and return to the previous spouse.
If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. ~ Deuteronomy 24:1-4