by joebeam | Mar 21, 2011 | How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
The last few blogs considered forgiveness. If you read them you recall that… Forgiveness frees you, not the person you forgive. Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion, and you can make that decision in spite of what you feel. Forgiveness involves making two...
by joebeam | Mar 17, 2011 | God, How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Sex, Uncategorized
Before we examine reconciliation, let’s talk about something called “decision based forgiveness.” Baskin and Enright wrote about it in a scholarly article published in 2004 in the Journal of Counseling and Development. If a person waits until he or...
by joebeam | Mar 8, 2011 | How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
In the last blog, I mentioned three steps to forgiveness. The first two are essential; the third optional. That blog covered the first two — deciding to see the other as a flawed human rather than Satan personified and deciding not to take vengeance. Now we move...
by joebeam | Mar 2, 2011 | God, How To's, Life, Overcoming the Past, Uncategorized
Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation. One CAN forgive and NOT create or restore a relationship with the person(s) that they forgive. Think of forgiving as having three aspects. The first two are essential if you are to free yourself from the burden of...
by joebeam | Feb 28, 2011 | God, How To's, Life, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
If you’ve lived life long enough (maybe past the first grade, for example) you’ve likely been hurt. Some who hurt you were people you didn’t really care about. Some were people you cared deeply for. Strangers can hurt us. Ministers. Teachers....
by joebeam | Feb 2, 2011 | Marriage, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
Type the question into Google and in less than a quarter of a second it returns over two million links. Some lead to articles, others to “sure fire” products that promise to solve all marriage problems, and others to blogs that say one can and blogs that...
