she chose someone else

by | Nov 11, 2008 | Marriage, Marriage Trouble

Believe me when I tell you that not all crisis marriages I encounter are in trouble because of an affair. There are many, many reasons that marriages fall into the pits. At the same time, surely you know that infidelity is rampant. Dr. Bill Harley tells me that he...

be a hero to troubled marriages

by | Nov 11, 2008 | Marriage, Marriage Trouble

If you’ve watched NBC’s Today Show, you’ve likely seen Natalie Morales. If not, check out her picture and bio here http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3080436/. You will see that she is beautiful. However,  Natalie is one of those people that neither TV nor...

salvaging the unsalvageable

by | Nov 11, 2008 | Marriage, Marriage Trouble

In 1999 I first offered a weekend workshop for marriages in crisis. Someone asked if I thought we could really change a marriage in just three days. I replied confidently that we could. And, by the grace of God, we have. That’s not to say that some couples...

should we separate?

by | Nov 5, 2008 | Marriage Trouble, Uncategorized

Because I am in the marriage business, often I get calls from ministers around the country who want a professional consultation (but apparently cannot afford a professional, so they call me). One call was from the Senior Minister and Associate Minister who sat...

she’s not your child

by | Nov 5, 2008 | Marriage Trouble, Uncategorized

It only took a few minutes of watching them react before I interrupted with a question, “Why do you treat her as if she’s a child?” He reacted with surprise. She reacted with relief. And appreciation. For years she had tried to tell him that his...