by joebeam | Apr 19, 2011 | How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship, Uncategorized
Forgiving does not always mean reconciliation. Forgiving frees the forgiver from chains of anger, hatred, bitterness, or haunting memories. Reconciliation means that as forgiveness is granted, the previous relationship will be restored, if possible. Previous blogs,...
by joebeam | Apr 1, 2011 | Communication, How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
When I consulted with a large jewelry chain years ago, one of their executives told me that if a customer came in unhappy, nothing a store manager could do would make them happy until the customer felt the store manager understood WHY they were unhappy. He said,...
by joebeam | Mar 31, 2011 | Communication, How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
If you choose to reconcile with someone who hurt you, there is a process that works. Reconciling without thinking through a valid process may lead to more hurt if the same things happen again. Maybe worse than last time. Though no process guarantees success, and there...
by joebeam | Mar 23, 2011 | Communication, How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Relationship
In a previous blog, we discussed the first of six steps that facilitate reconciliation. If a person decides to reconcile a relationship where damage has been done by either or both persons, it is essential to do step two. It is the most important, though the most...
by joebeam | Mar 21, 2011 | How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
The last few blogs considered forgiveness. If you read them you recall that… Forgiveness frees you, not the person you forgive. Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion, and you can make that decision in spite of what you feel. Forgiveness involves making two...
by joebeam | Mar 17, 2011 | God, How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Sex, Uncategorized
Before we examine reconciliation, let’s talk about something called “decision based forgiveness.” Baskin and Enright wrote about it in a scholarly article published in 2004 in the Journal of Counseling and Development. If a person waits until he or...
