by joebeam | Feb 25, 2013 | Communication, How To's, Life, Marriage, Relationship, Uncategorized
QUESTION: If your spouse does not give you what you need, is it better (or more damaging) to expect your spouse to live up to your need or to lower your standard? For example – my husband and I were having an issue. As we tried to figure out why I react the way...
by joebeam | Aug 25, 2011 | Communication, How To's, Life, Relationship
Robert Smith commented on Why Can You Hear What I Feel? He writes… I understand your point — that we should validate another person’s feelings and show empathy — but there are some people who have a very distorted, self-centered view of the world. Their feelings...
by joebeam | Aug 24, 2011 | Communication, Life, Relationship
A few years ago I was in a contentious meeting with a group of church leaders., though it had not started that way. At one point, I metaphorically threw up my hands and queried, “Can you at least understand why I feel as I do about this?” One brother...
by joebeam | Aug 24, 2011 | Communication, How To's
A dear friend who is quite literally the most gifted writer I know suggested I read a certain novel to expand my own writing ability. I sent him the following a couple days ago… After slogging through 64 pages, hacking at extraneous vines of flowing words in...
by joebeam | May 24, 2011 | Communication, How To's, Life, Marriage, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
Pardon the delay between Steps 3.3 and 3.4. Back on track now… We shared four of the steps for reconciliation in previous blogs. We conclude now with steps 4, 5, and 6. If you put all the blogs together, you have one of the most effective ways to reconcile...
by joebeam | Apr 1, 2011 | Communication, How To's, Life, Marriage Trouble, Overcoming the Past, Relationship
When I consulted with a large jewelry chain years ago, one of their executives told me that if a customer came in unhappy, nothing a store manager could do would make them happy until the customer felt the store manager understood WHY they were unhappy. He said,...
