QUESTION: Joe, I am in a quandary. My husband and I have both had affairs. He recently ended his. Mine, which has lasted 3 years, is more complicated. My “other” lives out of town, and we see each other once a year. Even though I rarely see him, he calls me every three weeks to see how I am doing. This is hard, and my feelings for him are overwhelming. So…even though I am committed to staying with my husband, how long will I suffer through these feelings for my lover? When will this end so that I can be normal and not obsessed with him?
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