QUESTION: Joe, there are a few things I have not told my wife. Although I never had an affair, I had an emotional connection with another woman that went to a brief, but unfulfilled physical encounter. This was over 10 years ago and is totally over. My marriage is better than it has ever been, and I feel that it would be foolhardy to bring this up now. Is it ok to keep quiet, or must I bring this up now and risk turning our marriage upside down? Please share any advice that will help me make the best decision.
ANSWER: as you might imagine, people regularly ask me whether they should tell their spouses about something that they know would hurt them. Sometimes, as in your case, they tell me about an event from years before. (One woman asked me about something that happened over 50 years earlier.) More often, they ask about something that happened more recently.
Whether ancient or recent, my answer remains the same. When considering Continue reading