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QUESTION: My boyfriend and I have dated for 2 years and need to decide whether to marry or not. The one issue we have is that we have religious differences in our relationship. He is protestant; I am Catholic. Neither of us is willing to give up our faith or religious affiliation, but we truly love each other. Any advice?
ANSWER: I remember reading a study a few years ago which indicated that couples who disagree about their differing churches tend Continue reading
QUESTION: My husband and I have been married for two years and are relatively happy. An issue is causing us trouble. I make a lot more money than my husband. This seems to come up in conversation more frequently (and with frustration on his part). I can’t help that I make more; I worked hard on my degree and love what I do. How do I keep this from coming between us?
ANSWER: Over many years in hundreds of marriages, I have witnessed this difficulty, though it seems the economy of the last few Continue reading
An excerpt from The Art of Falling in Love about commitment.
Commitment is the bedrock of love. It is the decision to continue a relationship, to love someone and to maintain the love. It constitutes a measurement of how strongly we value our relationship. When one is committed to another, it means that he or she will always Continue reading
An excerpt from The Art of Falling in Love about passion.
Passion, though sexual, is much more. It is a craving for oneness with the other. Sexual passion subsides with the length of relationship, but passion can grow throughout a lifetime. It’s the emotion you feel when you experience something wonderful — maybe a gorgeous sunset, or an exciting event — and the first thought that springs to mind is the wish that your lover were with you to share it. This passion keeps love not only alive, but also dynamic, and is even better in older ages than at younger ones. Continue reading
The following is an excerpt from The Art of Falling in Love that describes intimacy.
Intimacy is closeness, warmth, and the feeling of being bonded together. When men hear the word, they tend to think of it as something they do. Women, on the other hand, think of it as something they feel. It is truly knowing one another, or, taking the very sound of the word: into-me-see. Therefore, intimacy is being transparent, building trust, and allowing the other to look deeply into your soul. It means giving respect, developing deep friendship, and connecting on that level that words never reach. Without intimacy, true love cannot exist. Yet intimacy is one Continue reading
QUESTION: Should a child choose between divorcing parents?
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QUESTION: How does staying together for the kids affect the kids?
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QUESTION: Can a couple be happy if they stay together for the kids?
ANSWER: I’ll answer that question, but the first question to consider is how Continue reading
A writer sent a series of questions about the topic “Should we stay together for the kids?” I share her question and my answer.
QUESTION: Do you think it’s a good or bad idea to stay together for kids? Please explain your answer.
ANSWER: Since 1994, we’ve worked every year with hundreds of marriages in crisis . We regularly hear from one or both spouses statements such as, Continue reading