I once described a hero as Continue reading
QUESTION: Joe, I am in a quandary. My husband and I have both had affairs. He recently ended his. Mine, which has lasted 3 years, is more complicated. My “other” lives out of town, and we see each other once a year. Even though I rarely see him, he calls me every three weeks to see how I am doing. This is hard, and my feelings for him are overwhelming. So…even though I am committed to staying with my husband, how long will I suffer through these feelings for my lover? When will this end so that I can be normal and not obsessed with him?
Your quandary has at least two dimensions. Continue reading
USA Today reports that Pat says divorce is okay if one’s spouse has Alzheimer’s. When asked about vows such as “until death do us part” he opined that Alzheimer’s is “a kind of death.” He went on to say that the departing spouse should arrange proper care for the disease victim, but that to move on to another marriage is acceptable.
Without doubt, this and many other questions about whether or when to divorce an diminished spouse come wrapped in a plethora of emotions. Some see the caretaker spouse as chained, Continue reading
Wonderful message from my friend David Matthews….
Years ago, while living in Michigan, I met a couple at a social function visiting from Alabama. “What brings you guys to Michigan?” I asked.
“My dad and mom are in the nursing home here, and it’s my dad’s 90th birthday. We are going to visit them this afternoon, and spend about a week here.”
It turned out that I knew them, and had visited them in the nursing home on numerous occasions. The old man was one of my favorites – tough and ornery – always spoke his mind. I liked him because I had the freedom to always speak my mind with him. I was never afraid to do that -mainly because he was 90, deaf, and confined to a wheelchair. I felt safe with him. Continue reading
The following article is powerful and deeply touching.
It was written by my friend David Matthews. He does a workshop for people working through grief. It could be the grief of losing a loved one to death. It might be the grief of losing a loved one to another person. If you, or someone you know, is working through grief for any reason, I strongly recommend you contact David. You will find his info at the end of this article which may well change your life…. Continue reading
My friend, Lindsey Osterhoff, wrote the following….
This is what I know about grief…it doesn’t always strike when and how we expect it. Sometimes it sneaks up on us. Otherwise, how do you explain being devastated by the sudden loss of an amazing dad and not shedding a tear for hours? Or days?
When the grief finally hit a few weeks later, Continue reading